Hello, my sweet friends. Happy October. I’ve been ready for some crisp cool days. I do truly love the summer sun but there is something about the changes in the leaves and weather that I love as well. I’ve been seeing this quote “The trees are about to show us how lovely it is to let things go”. This is so true in our healing journeys. Letting go of all the things that don’t serve our minds, hearts, and bodies is so important for self-love and healing correctly. Another way I like to let go of those ‘things” is by asking my heavenly Father to take those ideas and mindsets from me and laying them down at His feet to bear and carry for me. That’s one of the things I pray every day is that I take the backseat and I allow Him to work His will through me and lay down all the burdens and things that distract me from Him and my healing.
I personally overthink everything so giving up those ideas that make me overthink everything and allowing His words to fill my heart and mind has helped me tremendously. I wish I could tell you that it’s not still a struggle, it is every.stinking.day. Over fifty-five years this girl has been programmed to think the worst-case scenario and the worst thoughts of herself through the many years with my toxic mother, abusive ex-husbands, and the many many toxic people that seem to invade my life. Until I actually started healing two years ago and realizing the impact of what the toxicity did in my life, I now understand the blueprint and importance of boundaries and how with those in place and being able to see the traits of toxic folks I’m no longer a magnet for such people. Now don’t get me wrong here, they are still out there, and I have encountered toxic people but when you recognize the traits you can decide whether or not you want to have them in your life or not. You can even take them at face value and understand the dangers of the toxicity and be an acquaintance. I have removed most of the toxicity from my life. I still have acquaintances that are most definitely toxic. I just don’t allow them to be close. It’s truly amazing how far I’ve come in this healing journey. I can spot toxic traits in a split second and the danger warning signs go off. Red flags flap all around them. Whereas before knowing these traits and being unhealed I would think oh I can fix them, I can make them a better version of themselves. Not being a codependent people-pleasing chronic fixer is soooo liberating. My mantra is you do you boo. I’m just gonna stay over here in my healing zone and let you play games and be toxic all on your own.
I can assure you if you are healing or going through a bad relationship you too will be able to heal, thrive, and be happy again. It just takes a lot of patience, self-love, lots of Jesus, and healing yourself. I’m so grateful that you are on this journey with me and I know that we will thrive together!