I recently made a blog post about boundaries and how important they are to us and more importantly that they are biblical. Well, I have been blessed to be on yet another book launch team for Lysa Terkeurst and her latest book titled, “Good Boundaries and Goodbyes”. I can tell you that in my opinion this is absolutely her best book to date. Because she has been through what you and I have she writes with a total relatable sense as if she is in front of you speaking directly to you. “Boundaries help us say what needs to be said, do what needs to be done, and establish what is and isn’t acceptable.” She totally gives us a road map of what good Biblical boundaries look like why they are so very important to each of us and also uses therapeutic wisdom from her own therapist to offer guidance insight as well. This book is a must for those of us who struggle with setting and maintaining boundaries. Sometimes those goodbyes when our boundaries are not accepted are hard but necessary to ourselves. This means that finding yourself in the healing journey and loving that self is knowing when to say goodbye to people and things that no longer serve in your best interest.
In my own struggle for finding the true Kimberly I’ve grown into a very thankful and grateful woman. Not that I haven’t always been grateful but now I’m grateful for me and who I am and who I am becoming. I know I’ve written his before but it’s so important to the person on their healing journey to look back with gratitude and not shame or regret and grasp the goodness of the outcomes of each bad decision or crisis. God is in the redemption business friends. He takes what the enemy meant for harm/evil and turns lessons into blessons. Lessons and blessings equal blessons. This my friends is what God intends for us all. He wants us to take our brokenness and stories to speak truth into the lives of those around us. I have encountered countless people that have spoken truth to me whether or not I wanted to believe it at the time or not, but the seed was planted and at the right moment appointed by God, all was clear. This weekend I was with my daughter and asked her what she thought about something I had been praying about and her words were, “you’ve just answered your own question.” I do love it how my kiddos always point me in the right direction. I’ve also had the privilege to speak truths as well. It’s really nice to be known for speaking the whole truth nothing but the truth! Knowing truth generally speaking, is knowing God and His truth. For myself that alignment takes a lot of work. Constant focus on His truth sometimes means leaving the worldly truth out of the equation. When a friend calls you and says I need to be honest, and I need your truth, you roll up your sleeves and do your best. I did indeed speak truth even if it might have stung a bit, but I pray the Holy Spirit leads this friend to healing and peace.
Sometimes we have to show people Jesus before we show them truth. I’ve had many in my journey over the last 10 to 15 years see and know the truth of my pain but point me to the cross first and I’m so glad they did because in His truth I found obedience to Him not the world or what the world wanted me to do and in His perfect time, His perfect will was in place. I’m truly happier than I’ve ever been in my life and I’m so very excited for what He is doing in and through me and will be doing in the future.
I’m ever so grateful for you being here with me on this journey and I pray you and your family have a Happy Thanksgiving! And don’t forget to spread those blessons.