If you’re anything like me I often tell my co-workers, friends, and people I come into contact with at work statements to uplift them daily. When my children were younger and as they grew up, they also received daily reminders of their importance not only in my life but also, in their worth in this big world. It’s so easy to pour into others but when it comes to us, well we tend to not affirm ourselves. For someone who was told for years they were not enough, this is a daunting task nonetheless an important aspect of our well-being.
When I realized what in-depth healing, I truly needed, I dug deep into the inner child and started where I had first felt the pangs of unworthiness. While doing this I realized how much this little girl had been hurt. After researching what was needed here, I told that little girl that she was beautiful and worthy, intelligent, and capable helped tremendously. This also helped me decide to incorporate daily affirmations for myself. Due to low self-esteem for so many years, I would tell others how wonderful they were and build them up daily but neglected myself. These daily affirmations tend to make a big difference in our positivity and strength.
Daily affirmations are statements that are meant to give your self-esteem a boost. These are usually based on your own needs and emotions. For me, I started out telling myself I was worthy and loved. There are so many benefits to adding positive self-affirmations to your daily routines. For example, affirmations can reduce stress, increase feelings of wellness, and help people embrace behavioral changes that can improve their mental health and boost their self-esteem.
In my circumstances, my self-esteem was so low from previous trauma that it made me a target for all the toxic folks. The first thing I did was to place affirmations on my mirrors to see every day. Because let’s face it that’s where we spend our mornings getting ready for the day and getting ready for bedtime. Some that I used and still have on there are: you are enough, good morning new life, and the most important one is God’s calls you beautiful, loved, healed, forgiven, cherished, valued, needed, hopeful, changed, redeemed, adored, prized, renewed, and joyful. For me what God says about me is much more important than what anyone has ever spoken to me. Unfortunately, it took decades for me to really know and feel this in my heart.
What we speak is what we think and that makes us feel whatever we are speaking into existence. Positiveness should always be spoken to ourselves. Let’s look at this in another way, God Himself tells us about our worth in the Bible. He says we are masterpieces. “For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” Ephesians 2:10. We were created for a purpose and uniquely made by Him. Since He created us each uniquely with purpose, we should never doubt His handiwork, but we are human and fall short. We are chosen people. 1 Peter 2:9. He says we are forgiven. Ephesians 1:7. The list of what He says about us goes on and on. I personally rely on what God says about me instead of others. That’s how I began to truly heal and love who I am.
Healing your trauma and past allows us to find our authentic selves and love ourselves which means that positive reinforcement of daily affirmations confirms those beliefs and feelings to make us whole in our healing and boosts our self-esteem as well. Next time you see someone that looks like they need a boost smile and tell them something nice about themselves. You will make their day.
So grateful that you’re on this journey with me. Blessings until the next time.